The Sabrina Zohar Show

• 127: How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty or Pushing People Away with Terri Cole

  Welcome back, babes! In today’s episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, I’m joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss, and expert on all things boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency. We’re breaking down what boundaries actually are (and what they aren’t), why so many people get them wrong, and how to set them without guilt. Terri also shares her personal journey of leaving the entertainment industry to follow her passion for psychology, plus practical tools to help you stop self-abandoning, start advocating for yourself, and build stronger, healthier relationships. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ The #1 reason people struggle with boundaries (Hint: It starts in childhood) ✅ The difference between a boundary, a preference, and an ultimatum – and how to know which one you’re setting ✅ Why people-pleasing isn’t “nice” – it’s dishonest (and how to stop) ✅ How to handle the guilt that comes with setting boundaries – and why it’s actually a sign of growth ✅ What to do when someone says, “You’ve changed” (spoiler: it’s a good thing) ✅ The truth about texting, boundaries, and dating expectations – why demanding daily texts is not a boundary, it’s control ✅ How to know if your standards are “too high” or if you’re avoiding intimacy ✅ The red flags of high-functioning codependency and how to break the cycle Get Terri's Book: Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free Take Terri's boundaries quiz MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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• 126: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who’s Not That Into You

  Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good? In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further, exploring: The real reason you can’t stop thinking about them (hint: it’s not because they’re special). How childhood patterns train your brain to mistake anxiety for attraction. Why fantasy and longing feel safer than real emotional intimacy. IFS (Internal Family Systems) techniques to uncover and heal the wounded parts of you that keep chasing the unavailable. How to disrupt the obsession cycle with practical, body-based tools. The question that will break the spell: What am I afraid will happen if I let them go? If you’re stuck in your head, constantly replaying what-if scenarios, or convincing yourself they must be the one—this episode is for you. It’s time to step out of the fantasy and reclaim your power. 🔗 Need more support? The Foundation Course, Breakup Course, and Nervous System Course are here to help. 🎧 Listen now and start breaking free. MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 15% off your first Fatty 15 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going HERE! and using code SABRINAZOHAR at checkout. Blueland has a special offer for listeners. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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• 125: Anxious vs. Avoidant: Breaking the Unhealthy Push-Pull Dynamic in Love With Jimmy Knowles

  If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much in a relationship while your partner seems emotionally unavailable, you’re not alone. The anxious-avoidant dynamic is one of the most common (and frustrating) relationship patterns—but is it doomed, or can it actually work? In this episode, Jimmy Knowles (@jimmy_on_relationships) joins Sabrina Zohar to break down the push-pull dynamic between anxious and avoidant partners. Both Jimmy and Sabrina lean anxious, while their partners are avoidant—so they get the struggles firsthand. 🔹 Why do avoidants pull away, and what are they really thinking? 🔹 How does anxious attachment lead to self-sabotage? 🔹 Can anxious-avoidant relationships actually thrive? 🔹 The key to breaking toxic cycles and building real trust They unpack how early childhood experiences shape attachment, why anxious partners tend to people-please into resentment, and how avoidants often withdraw not out of rejection—but out of self-protection. Plus, they reveal the mindset shifts needed to stop chasing, start connecting, and build a relationship where both people feel safe. If you’ve ever felt trapped in an emotional rollercoaster, this episode is for you. 🎢 👉 Hit play now and learn how to stop the cycle for good! MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp HERE! Blueland has a special offer for listeners. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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• 124: Why Healthy Love Can Feel Boring: Exploring Secure Relationships

  Ever found yourself attracted to chaos in relationships while feeling "meh" about someone who's actually good for you? In this Valentine's Day special, Sabrina dives deep into why we often mistake drama for passion and peace for boredom. She shares personal stories, including her own journey from choosing unavailable partners to embracing healthy love, and explains the neuroscience behind why stable relationships can feel uncomfortably "boring" at first. Key Topics: Why our brains are wired to crave relationship chaos The difference between settling and choosing healthy love How to stop self-sabotaging when you meet someone stable The truth about "boring" relationships vs. toxic excitement Practical tools for embracing and trusting healthy love Featured Insights: Dr. Jack Panksepp's research on why toxic love feels exciting Dr. Stan Tatkin's work on mistaking chaos for chemistry Dr. Barbara Fredrickson's theory on building deeper relationships Actionable Tools: The Alignment & Adventure Matrix for assessing relationships Three questions to ask when feeling uneasy in healthy relationships Journaling prompts for rewiring your brain for safety Whether you're single or coupled up this Valentine's Day, this episode provides the framework you need to start receiving the secure, healthy love you deserve. MERCH IS NOW AVAILABLE! Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Unlock your best skin with iRestore laser and get 25% off your Illumina Face Mask with the code SABRINA HERE! Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with Lume Deodorant and get 15% off with promo code SABRINA HERE! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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• 123: How To Date Intentionally and Find a Healthy Relationship — In the Trenches with Ali Jackson

  Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who doesn’t make you feel secure? Struggling with long-distance dynamics or wondering if you’re stuck in limerence? This episode is your reality check. Sabrina sits down with the unapologetically honest Ali Jackson, creator of @findingmrheight, to answer YOUR burning questions straight from the trenches. From navigating long-distance situationships to decoding mixed signals and handling the dreaded “I’m not ready for a relationship” talk, we’re cutting through the noise with raw, unfiltered advice. What You'll Learn: Long-Distance Reality Check: Is it worth it? What signs should you never ignore? Limerence vs. Genuine Connection: Are you truly into them or just the fantasy? How to Bring Up Exclusivity: Without feeling like you're 'ruining' anything. When to Walk Away: Spotting red flags in situationships and casual flings. The Truth About Waiting for Someone: (Hint: Stop.) Get Involved: Got a question for Sabrina? Send your dating dilemmas, screenshots, or situationships to [email protected] for a chance to be featured in the next episode. Stuck After the Podcast? Master Implementation in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Foundation Course HERE! Do you feel like your emotions run the show and react in ways you can’t control? Join the Nervous System 101: Navigating the Unknowns In Early Dating from Sabrina and Masha Kay HERE! Struggling with a breakup? Join the Make It Make Sense: Getting Through a Breakup course from Sabrina and Britt Frank HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Advocate for your health today. Get 23andMe for 10% off HERE! Total Health membership includes services initiated and performed by third-party clinicians and lab providers through the 23andMe platform. Additional terms and conditions also apply. See 23andme.com to learn more. Total Health Membership not available to residents of HI, NJ, NY, RI and US territories.  Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol HERE! Code is SABRINA Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formally known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.

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